Hi from Elena!

This week is about FEAR - my experience with FEAR.

In this journey towards "the second mountain" or a truly fulfilling life – fear is very common.

In my case: fear of failure, fear of wasting my time, fear of losing the trust of others, fear of being ugly, fear that someone will say no, and so on.

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A few days ago, after a team call, I felt how fear was taking over me. I was feeling it in my legs. They were getting weak, fragile.

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I found myself repeating in my mind: "It’s just fear. Fear is the killer of the mind."

And I rewatched on Youtube, a scene from the movie Dune, saying:

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Rewatching it every time I feel overwhelmed with fear helps me gather the courage to face any fears.

Also, this quote perfectly summarizes my TO-DO LIST for dealing with fear.

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First, as a prerequisite, I remind myself with a self-talk audio these two ideas:

• Fear appears when I perceive myself as helpless in the face of danger or a threat, whether real or perceived.
• Fear is temporary. It’s a signal from my internal alarm preoccupied with survival. It’s an instinctual message saying, “I want to survive,” and I need to reassure myself that even in the worst-case scenario, I will be alright somehow.

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Second, I let myself feel it, pass over me and through me, even if it’s just for 10-15 seconds. Sometimes, I need to reassure myself that I can face it and that I will find the inner strength to face anything. This is important because some fears are easier to feel, while others are debilitating, so 10 seconds is a good start.

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Third, learning from fear, researcher Brené Brown says that:

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To sum it up, processing my fear feels a bit like in this video. I watched it for the first time when I was 17 and it imprinted courage in my mind.

So, remember, fear teaches us about what's important in our lives. Welcome it as a friend, not a sign of weakness.
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All the best,

Elena

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